There are things/ that I don’t wanna learn
The phrase "I don't want to learn" is one I use often, when I am too exhausted or exasperated to learn how something works (like a microwave at someone's else's house), and I just want it to be done for me. I can deal with the medical parts of having Crohn's, but for some reason, dealing with the financial side of it is what drives me over the edge. Maybe it's that I feel like it's forcing me to pay for the privilege of having Crohn's -- when if anything, I should be getting paid. So I have willful ignorance that has manifested in a new wing constructed to my Quest Diagnostics Barbie chalet (a la Titus on "Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt").
I don’t really have anything for this one. But, man, is this a great song. Same for “Father Figure.” And "Careless Whisper" is worth a Google for damn sure.
“If you’re gonna do it, do it right.”
People with IBD often opt out of things because they can’t do them the way they want to. This is always a judgment call -- is it pouting and self-induced exclusion, or is it a healthy way to deal with an unhealthy situation? If I'm in a certain frame of mind, I’m not going to attend the work Christmas pizza party and eat salad with a smile slapped on my face, just to be a good sport and participate, OK? Life is too short for me to spend more of it brooding over how much I hate you for being able to eat crap. And explaining why I'm bringing my own food to a work-catered event. It’s better for our relationship.
If I'm in a certain frame of mind, I’m not going bar-hopping if I can’t drink, because I’ll be hopping mad before the night’s through. It's not a universal excuse to opt out of life, but it is a valid decision to make if it feels right to you.
What every IBDer aspires to. Freedom from health insurance struggles, searching for bathrooms, tracking prescription refills, injections, procedures, surgeries, exhaustion, moon face, 'roid rage. But I have learned a lot along the way about what to fight for and what to leave behind. What truly matters and what is just eating one or two Russell Stover truffles out of my Christmas stocking because I'm sorta hungry but not really and shut up.
As George put it:
"Today, the way I play the game is not the same;
Think I'm gonna get myself happy."
For more about appreciating our best musicians while they’re still alive, check out Slate's Wonder Week about the still-living greatness of Stevie Wonder.